When do I know that someone is truly connected to me?

Question to myself: “When can I recognize that people are serious about me, and that I do not have to be afraid of being abandoned?” This question suggests to me that what is being sought here is a rather practical and direct answer, one that is meant to be suitable for everyday life. Well… You can judge this very well in people by the extent of unpleasant things they are willing to overlook for you. In emergencies or bad times, surface and true self almost completely collapse into one another - and then you can almost directly read off the authenticity and true answer you desire.